Keepin’ it 100 with Willy T
Earlier this week, I had the chance to lead a professional development session with a group of extremely bright and talented State Student Leaders of NIRSA: Leaders in Collegiate Recreation. As we approach our Association’s Annual Conference in Boston (this weekend!!!) I was asked to focus the conversation on networking.
During this session, we covered why it’s important, best practices, and networking-related quotes from “NIRSA Legends” that I gathered from some of my friends in the field. There’s one segment that I want to share with everyone because of its relevance to daily interpersonal touchpoints.
It’s the concept of managing an “emotional bank account” when communicating. I’ll explain:
When networking, it’s important to understand that the term itself is predicated upon mutual benefit. Similarly, to benefit a bank account, you’d want to put in deposits. Deposits in this sense can include being polite, positive nonverbal communication, remembering names and details, and sharing information that could benefit the other person.
Withdrawals on the other hand, refer to the things that would take away from the positive experience of others such as being rude, interrupting, sharing too much, and pushing a personal agenda.
Dr. Stephen Covey originally came up with this analogy, and he states that it is the base of all human relationships. We need to be cognizant of the deposits and withdrawals we’re making to maximize our communication with others and provide others with a positive experience.
And as a financial advisor might suggest, it’s usually nice to make deposits before seeking withdrawals!
With the NIRSA Annual Conference approaching - I’d be remiss if I didn’t post a throwback set of photos that exemplify one of the greatest experiences of my life. Serving as the NIRSA Student Leader, I had the chance to learn and grow with six student leaders and nine professional Member Network members as we represented the NIRSA member body for advocacy, development, and communication. I want to take the opportunity to thank this group for pushing me to be the networker, leader, and human that I am today.
Pictured: (Jordan Bishop, Earl Cabellon, Margie Cole, David Davenport, Heather Foster, Jess Gentry, Vicki Highstreet, Kelsey Jones, Andy Lemons, Tiffany Murphy, Megan Normansell, David Parker, David Peters, Pat Shank, Brian Smith - Photo creds to my friends from StevenMillerPix)
Peace, Love, and Networking,
Two weeks ago was my final day at Western Kentucky University and boy it was a memorable one: my marketing team filmed the In My Feelings Challenge, I taught one of the best classes of my life, and said “see you later” to the people who have become my family.
The very next day I woke up at 6am, packed up my apartment, and cleaned it like Martha Stewart because your girl needs that security deposit back. After 6 hours of intense labor and multiple trips to and from my car the in 95 degree hot Kentucky weather-it was done. The apartment was spotless, my utilities transferred, and the car packed like tetris. Just a year ago, I was moving into my cute studio apartment and one year later I was moving out. However, all for good reason! I moved to Cincinnati, Ohio to be reunited with my fiance after enduring long distance for a year. I said my final goodbyes, downloaded podcasts, and after dropping off my spectrum modem I was on the road.
Everything went smoothly and it inspired me to share some tips with you on how to stay healthy during your move. I am not perfect so I really wish I would have done some of these. Ha! Hindsight is 20/20.
Before the move
Pro Tip: Pack a bag of things that you’ll need the night of. Trust me you’ll be thankful you did. The night I arrived I was looking through boxes for my toothbrush and shower items.
Whether you’re moving because you didn’t like your old place, got a new job, or going to college, etc- I hope these tips help you stay well while you unpack.
When in Doubt, Just “W.I.N.”
W.I.N. - What’s Important Now. A monumental acronym that provides a mental reset and meditative focus.
Deriving from former Football Coach Lou Holtz’s mentorship philosophy and his book “Winning Every Day,” he encouraged those around him to ask this question continuously. Upwards of 35 times a day from the moment you rise ‘til the moment you rest.
I have an occasional tendency to make split decisions that jeopardize both my present wellbeing and/or my long-term goals… And I’m sure I’m not the only one. Writer/Public speaker Brian Willis’ hits home on this and words it better than I ever could:
“The simple act of stopping to ask this question causes us to briefly pause while our mind imagines the impact of the choices we have and almost immediately brings to mind the most desirable choice. When I say most desirable I do not mean the choice that will give us the most immediate gratification. I mean the choice that will have the most positive impact for us in our lives, based on the foreseeable future. This one powerful question allows us to prioritize decisions, choices, actions, and events in our personal and professional lives. The reason What’s Important Now is such a powerful question is that it is about both the present and the future.”
Beyond the 100:
Video: Virginia Tech Head Basketball Coach Buzz Williams masterfully explains his WINning philosophy in one minute:
Article: Brian Willis’ full explanation of why he writes books and travels the world preaching the WINning philosophy http://www.lifesmostpowerfulquestion.com/about-win/
Book: Lou Holtz’s book “Winning Every Day” https://www.amazon.com/Winning-Every-Day-Game-Success/dp/0887309534
Who we are
Just a team of round pegs in a square hole changing the world one interaction at a time.
Look back at it